Sunday, April 3, 2016

It's time for a "Reality" check

Some of you could be asking yourself "what is the big deal? I mean everyone's family has junk." Ummmm....How is it we all "know" something is off or we have become familiar with family dysfunction, yet nothing is done about it or has been suggested to change it???? If everyone has junk then how is it we haven't become more tolerant when people disregard us or treat us like dog shat? Here's what I know to be a fact. You can call it what you will....dysfunction, issues, just the way it is......ALL WORDS TO LET HUMANS OFF THE HOOK. PERIOD. We don't want our families to be messed up in reality, but it also requires us to DO something about it. I have come to learn the most tolerated forms of abuse are the ones cloaked in everyone's homes as normal. The everyday family issues, we all go through those kind of terms that really only fester into more serious disease as to tear at the family structure so no one has to be accountable as to how everyone is treated including themselves. This, in turn, is a more serious disease or dysfunction because it is viewed differently than say drugs and alcohol and sexual abuse. When in all reality the poor treatment and lack of interest in how each child is developing is what will lead to the very use of drugs and alcohol, or food and will lead the individuals to sexual issues as well. The Devil is smart and knew so many people including Adam and Eve would not like communicating how they really felt because they would deal with "anxiety". The one feeling almost everyone hates unless it involves winning the lottery. It is difficult to get many people to continually talk to each person about pushing past that feeling and learning to get all that anxiety used to accomplish something good. It isn't impossible to deal with insecurities, it can just feel like that. Why? Think about it, when God created the Heavens and the Earth he had intentions for the Garden of Eden to be a special place to spend time among things that He created to make joyful connections to the first 2 people ever created. When Eve chose to sin, as much as people love to focus on how they lost paradise and sinned, I focus on what the great divide realllllly includes. Which means we need to study the Bible and it's people to include feelings and desires and relational issues we would have because our feelings were connected to God through a different spiritual connection or presence. I think if we would empower ourselves to realize how anxiety is used in a human body and our Heavenly Father allows it and has created all good and all evil, than how much more do WE NEED HIM TO ACCOMPLISH ALL THINGS. See it is really about bringing Glory to God. He has everything working together for a purpose. He initiated a connection to Adam and Eve through his creation. Once they had chosen to sin through the use of their own freewill, they had cut the connection off from God for their own use. Okay, don't get tripped up there. The big picture is no human being is capable of living a perfect sin free life, so it is what truly separates us from being able to live in Heaven with him. He CANNOT LIVE AMONG SIN. So once again that special bypass of sending his very own Son to die for all the sin of the world covered us from having to be banished to hell once our time on Earth had come to an end. People make it all about dollars and cents or rather sin and purity. It's so much simpler, and much more plain that what we have come to make it in church. We study to condemn and to discern poor thought or bad behavior. We haven't learned much from our Heavenly Father. We live in such vast communities and we continue to grow today. We've lost touch with "thought". I haven't been shown many families that make it a habit to consider all sides of their humanity including dark thoughts and to verbally communicate what would happen if they didn't deal with the reality of those very thoughts. It's not so morbid to have terrible thoughts whatever they may be from wanting to cuss someone out or to slap someone in the pie hole, I have come to learn at least once in everyone's life feelings like that come and go. We choose to hide them and not deal with them in an aloud verbal processing that helps our mind take responsibility for everything from acting on it or not. How do we think that we will live out our lives among the people who will not choose to believe in Christ, and his Father our sovereign God. There has to be consequences for not fully serving out our purpose of telling all the world that He is God. This is not a Bible beat down for the locals. This is just what I have come to learn tears down the average Joe, the brother, or sister down the road. Families left and right suffer because the treatment as a child did not give them a chance to see the vibrancy God has given each individual. Sure, every now and then, we are going to come across a person who chooses to remain Evil and do evil things. For the most of us around here we are dealing with just getting through holidays and family barbecues. The tolerance mind set is festering into total family tree cancers that kill everything in it's path one person at a time. It slowly allows for doubt and insecurities to increase as the smile leaves their face. We don't need to let this happen. It will require us to get out of our comfort zones and start speaking honestly about the lies, secrets, issues, problems, confusions, & doubts that we have in the relationships we have with ourselves and then with others. It isn't an easy task to take on, but if you're alive and breathing air for any length of time, you already know if it's worth it then it takes some work. I've done this in my own life and continue to peel back the onion layers to reveal the more intensely vibrant Laura that God has intended me to be. It wasn't an easy journey and I'm forever grateful for what I've gone through to make me as strong as I can possibly be. I'll leave you with this thought I often share with my clients. In battle everyone has swords, they all look relatively the same, it's the weapon of choice and is used to slay the enemy. What if there was a sword that was different and wouldn't break under battle. The Excalibur. Created under intense heat and pressure became unbreakable. I'd like to think that is what my personality is undergoing. A continual journey of heat and pressure to reveal a person that would go into battle for others knowing she could withstand the hits because she wouldn't break. It requires that I walk with the Lord and push back. You've been warned. lol

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